I don’t know how the month of January has been for you, but I found it quite challenging! Certainly, the frigid Minnesota weather has everyone hibernating as much as possible, but the challenges I experienced transcend Mother Nature. Unexpected circumstances created a situation requiring me to revisit a difficult time in my life – a time from which I believed I had long since healed. Concurrently, my life’s pace was picking up speed as I was suddenly besieged by deadlines. It occurred to me that I was feeling the transition from slither to gallop as the 2013 Year of the Snake slithers its way out and the spirited 2014 Year of the Horse prepares to gallop in January 31st.
That situation the latter part of this Snake year immediately transported me back to a life changing event nearly 30 years ago: a divorce from which I had long since healed and moved beyond. Or so I thought, until the recent death of my ex-husband. Feelings flooded back and I realized, in this Snake year, vestiges of old emotional connections were emerging and requiring my attention. I felt like the snake that has one last push to finally and completely shed it’s old skin. It is a fact that snakes shed their skin to allow for continued growth. With my ex-husband’s passing, I was being invited to reconcile and shed subtle emotional ties I hadn’t been aware were standing in the way of my continued personal growth.
Something, or someone greater than I, was nudging me to complete a cycle. The Snake year was a strong year for inner development, emotional renewal, metamorphosis, elimination, and recycling. As this Snake year was coming to a close, I found myself faced with an unanticipated opportunity to address each of these.
As executrix of my ex-husband’s Will (an unexpected surprise), I became involved in assisting my daughters to prepare his home for sale. They invited me to help them make decisions about what items to keep and what to recycle. This is always a painful activity for family who are left to make decisions about the things their loved ones accumulate over a lifetime and then leave behind. In Feng Shui, when an item in our life is no longer needed or no longer serves us, it is blessed and recycled. That means it is mindfully and respectfully discarded or donated. Going through the last tangible remnants belonging to a loved one who has passed is a painful yet essential component of the healing process. It affords a chance to reminisce, share stories, laugh and shed tears in honor of the memory of the deceased.
Of course, in going through his belongings, I came across old documents and photos of my ex and me from what seemed another lifetime. I believed I had long since neutralized the pain and resentment that accompanied our divorce. We had not remained friends. But going through those old memories gave me an opportunity to re-visit that stressful period. In the re-visit, I was able feel gratitude for the good times, release any lingering resentments and lovingly say good-bye.
While experiencing these last remnants of snake shedding, I am also sensing the energy of the feisty horse approaching! Horse energy is wild, willful, and independent. 2014 is predicted to be a high-energy year requiring decisive action. Compassionately releasing old emotional ties to a distant past has helped prepare me to embrace the Horse’s free spirited nature! I’m ready for the sprint!